Tuesday, January 24, 2012

Michigan, turbulence but charm.

So I know I haven't posted lately, I have been through a lot. Well I hitch-hiked to Michigan with Bones where we settled down in a homeless camp in Ann Arbor called Camp Take Notice. At first I was impressed by the tent city which seemed quite resilient and at that point appeared to have a good sense of community and fairness. When we first got to Ann Arbor, Bones started going by the name Grit and when we got into Camp Take Notice it seemed like everything was great. Over the time we were in Ann Arbor, Bones became increasingly controlling. Eventually he started returning to beating me and making me have sex often whether I was in the mood or not. Nobody intervened until two people from occupy assisted me in mustering the courage to leave where I slept in the Occupy Ann Arbor camp and within a day he came there looking for me in a drunken rage. He (at one point) raised his hand, clenched into a fist, to me and said "I'll bruise you, bitch!" The cops came and pulled him away, handcuffed him and put him in a cop car. Since then I've been in an undisclosed location in the Ann Arbor area, with a personal protection order against him through the court system. Camp Take Notice however concluded that I must have been lying, blaming me for this. I was officially banned from CTN. The response from the camp was not one of justice but one of embarrassment, victim blaming, patriarchy and hatred. I've been really disappointed in CTN for their decision to blame me instead of Bones/Grit/Patrick Dean who abused me physically, sexually and emotionally. They have taken a position that by default views women as lesser humans and as inferior to men.  If a man gets drunk and hits another man he gets kicked out of CTN. When a man gets drunk and beats the woman he says he loves and puts a knife to her throat they treat it like a personal issue between the two people that make up the couple. The double standard is really problematic. To this day I still relive the trauma often in night terrors, flash backs and general fear and anxiety.